Renewing My Driver’s License

March 24, 2009 by  
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large_drivers-license-0416Well today was a real adventure.  I got a notice in the mail that my driver’s license had expired (tells you how much I look at the thing) so I had to figure out how I was going to get there.

I thought about going on Saturday when the husband was home, so he could watch the boys, but the place was closed on Saturday.  So at about 10 am this morning I decided I would try and go.  For the most part during my week, we are home bodies, due to the fact, that it is such a pain to get everyone dressed, and out the door.  I wasn’t all too sure how I would handle my two, take a vision test and keep an eye on them etc, so I was very nervous about what to expect.  Call me a wuss, but honestly being a first time parent, I just get neurotic about taking the twins out by myself, especially if I need to concentrate on getting something done.

So we show up, and there are only 3 people in line, and I think to myself “this cant be too bad, sat the boys up on the benches, and notice that I don’t have enough cash.  They only take cash or check, and the cost is $24 now (holy cow!)  I had $20 on me thinking this has to be more than enough for a piece of plastic..Nope!  So we head back out the door, load up the boys in their car seats, and head to the bank.  Get back and there is no one there in line which is a relief for me because then I wouldn’t have to worry about the boys.

The lady behind the counter was a complete snarky snob.  They ask you questions like you are a criminal, and she is the warden.  Meanwhile, I am trying to read the 4th line and say where the red dot is,get the boys to sit after they knocked over the plastic poles with the plastic chains that defined where the lines should stand.

I have a beef with the viewfinder, I think they make those things blurry on purpose!  I have perfect vision but the 3′s look like 8′s and vice versa.  This woman was not nice and I was glad to get the hell out of there.  My picture, I won’t share, but it is indicative of  how flustered I was  lol.  It sits in my wallet for the most part, and who feels glamorous when you get pulled over anyway?  I accomplished my task, but I was stressed out, and the boys were actually good, the poles they knocked over were light as a feather, so I think they bumped them and it was a chain reaction.  Ahhh the adventures of motherhood.

Toddlers and NO

March 20, 2009 by  
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Yep it’s just been one of those days!  I have twins yep, I know you knew that, but I hear everything resonating in my ear times two.  There are some days where I feel like I am the kid in the house.  I find myself discussing things with my two year olds, and feel just like stomping around the house and telling everyone NO!

We are at that ever so wonderful stage of toddlerhood where my two boys are asserting their independence.  Every other word is accompanied by the word no in this house and “no mommy me do it allllll by myself” and I think I am about to lose my mind.  I know that this is just a test and a battle of wills, and sometimes I feel like I am failing miserably.  Everyone, assures me that it is just a phase, and the promise of it will get better bellowing from the mouths of people can sometimes sound like nails on a chalkboard.

There are days I tell you, I feel like a complete idiot trying to carry on a conversation with not one but two, two year olds.  Today I sounded like an auctioneer, repeating myself…no no no, come here, come here, would you stop please.  I am sure I look a bit comical, chasing my naked son who decided to take off his diaper and RUN!  Here I am running circles around the couch and praying like heck he doesn’t pee all over the carpet.  Needless to say I am exhausted.

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So how do I get them to cooperate?

I have found that instead of saying “No” all the time, I offer them a choice.  Something about being negative all the time seems to make them retaliate.  Granted there are some things that are just plain no.  Giving them a choice sort of empowers them a little and makes them feel like they are part of the decision.  “No you may not have candy but you can have this instead”, almost never works because they are already set on the candy.  So instead I offer them two things they CAN have, and say “Do you want a banana or some grapes” and it seems to work about 99% of the time.

They are starting to understand more, so at meal times things have gotten easier.  I tell them if they want their dessert or treat that they must eat what they are going to eat.  This seems to motivate them just to eat well.  I do not force them to clean their plate but expect them to eat reasonably so they aren’t filling their stomachs with treats.

Time Outs:  We are still tweaking with these to see if they actually work.  For one of the boys just time out anywhere in the house works.  For my other one he has to be separated from everyone, and this is very upsetting for him but it seems to actually work. Me on the other hand, am emotional about a lot of it and sort of feel like I am not doing the right thing, so it is tough.  As a parent you want your children to grow up being respectful individuals.  I am always worrying if I am being a good mom, I think we are our worst critics.  And why is it that everyone tells me how good they are, yet I am still pulling out my hair?

I am sure it is all just a phase and this aspect will get better, but there is another phase around the bend I am sure.  I hope my mommy armor is tough enough to withstand!