I know with the colder weather coming up, it means much more time spent indoors with your children. With twin 3 yr old boys it makes it hard when they are so full of energy and you cannot let them out to play. The past few days have been so rainy here and I was scrambling to find something to do with them, that would occupy at least one hour of the day. Finding small crafts for toddlers is sometimes a challenge but I ran across a really cute one at Walmart the other day.
Wilton the famous cake decorating and candy making supply company had these really cute Halloween candy necklaces that kids can put together and they were only $3.99, so I thought I would give them a try. The boys had a blast and had even more fun eating them! It is a nice little project to do with kids ages 3 and up, and they may need a little help. But stringing on the candy beads is also a great way to develop those fine motor skills.
Check out our crafting day!!
I had just recently put up a post about my two and the fact that they don’t like to be told NO and they are always telling me “no mommy.” I just recently came across a really interesting article on toddlers and why they don’t do what they are told. It makes a little more sense and here I am thinking that my two are going to grow up and people are going to think that my two are not well behaved.
This article is from Live Science, I am not familiar with them but the article was somewhat interesting. According to the article, toddlers hear what you are saying but they basically store the information for later use.
A test was set up to measure the pupil difference in 3 yr olds versus older kids to determine the mental effort of the child to study the cognitive abilities of 3-and-a-half-year-olds and 8-year-olds. What they found was that pupil measurements showed that 3-year-olds neither plan for the future nor live completely in the present. Instead, they call up the past as they need it.
I thought it was pretty interesting because we as adults basically have expectations of our little ones. You know they can understand what we are saying but I think they process a whole lot differently than we expect. You can read the entire article here
Yep it’s just been one of those days! I have twins yep, I know you knew that, but I hear everything resonating in my ear times two. There are some days where I feel like I am the kid in the house. I find myself discussing things with my two year olds, and feel just like stomping around the house and telling everyone NO!
We are at that ever so wonderful stage of toddlerhood where my two boys are asserting their independence. Every other word is accompanied by the word no in this house and “no mommy me do it allllll by myself” and I think I am about to lose my mind. I know that this is just a test and a battle of wills, and sometimes I feel like I am failing miserably. Everyone, assures me that it is just a phase, and the promise of it will get better bellowing from the mouths of people can sometimes sound like nails on a chalkboard.
There are days I tell you, I feel like a complete idiot trying to carry on a conversation with not one but two, two year olds. Today I sounded like an auctioneer, repeating myself…no no no, come here, come here, would you stop please. I am sure I look a bit comical, chasing my naked son who decided to take off his diaper and RUN! Here I am running circles around the couch and praying like heck he doesn’t pee all over the carpet. Needless to say I am exhausted.
So how do I get them to cooperate?
I have found that instead of saying “No” all the time, I offer them a choice. Something about being negative all the time seems to make them retaliate. Granted there are some things that are just plain no. Giving them a choice sort of empowers them a little and makes them feel like they are part of the decision. “No you may not have candy but you can have this instead”, almost never works because they are already set on the candy. So instead I offer them two things they CAN have, and say “Do you want a banana or some grapes” and it seems to work about 99% of the time.
They are starting to understand more, so at meal times things have gotten easier. I tell them if they want their dessert or treat that they must eat what they are going to eat. This seems to motivate them just to eat well. I do not force them to clean their plate but expect them to eat reasonably so they aren’t filling their stomachs with treats.
Time Outs: We are still tweaking with these to see if they actually work. For one of the boys just time out anywhere in the house works. For my other one he has to be separated from everyone, and this is very upsetting for him but it seems to actually work. Me on the other hand, am emotional about a lot of it and sort of feel like I am not doing the right thing, so it is tough. As a parent you want your children to grow up being respectful individuals. I am always worrying if I am being a good mom, I think we are our worst critics. And why is it that everyone tells me how good they are, yet I am still pulling out my hair?
I am sure it is all just a phase and this aspect will get better, but there is another phase around the bend I am sure. I hope my mommy armor is tough enough to withstand!
Potty training will be our next big hurdle. Both of the bubbas are just now showing some interest in the potty. Since I have two of them to potty train, I am a little nervous about jumping right in. It is hard to say if they will sort of watch and learn from each other or if each one will sort of move at their own pace.
It has been fun around the house lately with two boys running around. Their newest thing is to take off their diapers and run naked as a jaybird through the house. If you’re lucky and super fast. you might catch one of them! This is where being a mommy can get a little hairy. One afternoon I was going to the bathroom and usually I have one or both in the bathroom with me, because we all know mommy can’t pee alone. Anyway, I just went in the bathroom for a minute. I hear the two of them laughing and playing and bubs goes driving by on his trike. I think nothing of it because he had his shirt on. I didn’t notice that the diaper was off till he came around the corner. I’m thinking about grabbing the duct tape next.
I am thinking that they are getting close, but the pediatrician and my sister-in-law told us to look closer to three years of age before they are potty trained. My husband and I aren’t really pushing the issue, but we have a potty chair in each bathroom. If they ask to sit on it, we just say ok. and let them sit their with a book. Sometimes we get lucky with the timing and raise a ruckus and clap and praise them if they do something. I am praying for it all to be easy. But we shall see! I will keep you updated as we move along, it is so hard when you have two at one time and you are a first time parent learning as you go.